Research shows that Intimacy is an extremely important aspect of any relationship – Yes, even the all important relationship… the one with yourself. And believe it or not, it is VITAL to your Wellbeing. My advice to you is to stop and ask yourself.. Are you getting any?

When you are beginning to feel hopeless or worthless I recommend taking a look at the following two aspects and thinking about them for the next week.

1. Communication;

a. Learn to say what you really mean in the nicest way possible.
b. Use ‘I’ or ‘me’ statements, don’t ever start any form of communications (even those with yourself) with ‘You’ or ‘You never’. Try these instead ‘I have been feeling…’, ‘I’ve noticed that…’. When using these statements it often softens the delivery for what is about to come.
Remember, it is never about what you say, rather it is about how you say it!

2. Conflict;

a. When two people who grew up in two different homes decide to make a life together, conflict is going to happen. Each of us comes into the relationship with different ways of seeing the world and when these perspectives clash, we encounter conflict. It isn’t about right or wrong; it’s about perception and how we see the world.

b. If you continue to meet conflict with defensiveness, you’ll find yourselves in a power struggle that fills your relationship with negativity and resentment. If, however, you meet conflict with a willingness to listen and an intention to understand, and have empathy for each other, then there’s room for healing and growth to happen.

Creating a well-balanced relationship that covers all of the C’s is not an easy feat. It takes hard work and dedication mixed with trust and an understanding that you are two people coming into this relationship with completely different pasts and future expectations. So go easy on yourselves. Have fun and don’t punish yourselves for stumbling along the way. How you pick yourselves up is what makes your relationship last in this society we have built.